First of all, why as women, do we tend to do this comparison dance… I would really love to know.
It doesn’t make much sense, as its usually never something that is taught to us. It’s not a learned trait or reaction. It really does create quite a hard pattern to work through as an adult and the self doubt that comes along with that is actually quite detrimental. With many situations in our life that we are faced with, from marriage to friendships or motherhood, it’s really really difficult to hold poise and strength as a person and as a woman, when you are constantly comparing herself to somebody else. It doesn’t make sense. And the comparison mindset seeps into everything if you don’t just put it to sleep.
This generation has found us relying heavily on the help of others for everything! From health and wellness, to spirituality, emotional, professional, business, hobbies, relationships and so much more. We have health professionals, medical professionals, spiritual professionals and guides, emotional and psychological professionals, business and professional professionals, soul coaches, life coaches, coaches that tell you how often to shit, piss, speak, and when the best time is to do it all!
Can I just ask, when did we lose the ability to listen to our own INTUITION?
Do we not need this anymore? Don’t get me wrong, there are places and situations when we need these guides and mentors to help us. We all do. But I see people constantly spending THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS on many different coaches who are going to give them the same information. Have we been brainwashed into thinking we can’t think for ourselves? Are we going to all turn into cookie cutter versions of one another or of the people whom are doing all this successful guiding??? I don’t know, but maybe instead we should all just focus on what is really in our hearts, where our souls are guiding us? Our intuition is like a muscle… we must use it or… we lose it! Keep listening to that voice! If you really feel you need a coach or a mentor, find one! But remember, you are the one with the power to be the best version of you! You don’t need to go comparing yourself to someone else. Don’t get a coach or a mentor to tell you how to be like Sally down the road. You just need to be you!
We don’t want to have a world full of puppets doing the same shit. 100 people can cook a chocolate cake, every cake will taste a little different… but at the end of the day, you just end up with 100 chocolate cakes! We all need to cook up our own shit. Own your perfectness! Own who you are! Warts and all. You are fucking fabulous!!!