Speak up even if your voice shakes.
Bullying. Pretty much a term for any shit head who feels he or she is better than or cooler than someone else.
Its not initially about hurting people, well I don’t think it is. Its purely about making yourself look and feel better, to make you look cooler to your friends… to fit in.
I know, cause I was once one of those arseholes. I WAS A BULLY. I was an arsehole. I have had the chance to be able to make amends with that and actually apologise to the person who I bullied. I was lucky enough to be greeted with a gracious response too. But in reality I shouldn’t have. She should have told me to shove it up my dinger. There is no excuse for it. Its weak and it heartless. It is a foul and useless act.
I was in high school when I chose to follow a chosen group of friends blindly and do what I thought was cool. It wasn’t my idea, I didn’t even really want to be a nasty piece of work but I felt it would make me better, gel with the crowd… meet the status quo of my idea of cool. It didn’t help me. I don’t know why I did it. It only caused pain. I got not pleasure out of that. I pretended I did cause I was a bitch. I was being a shitty kid who thought it was fun and the done thing. Such a dickhead.
Don’t get me wrong, I only did that once. I wasn’t like a serial bully. I didn’t go from person to person unleashing my shit upon the world like some people do. But I did it once and I will never forget it. I mentally caused someone pain and anguish for what? No reason but self gratification.
I was of course throughout my life bullied. All kids are. I don’t think any of us come out unscathed. Children can be relentless! But I am a tough little nut and have extremely broad shoulders. I have a tight super close family network who would believe me no matter what, whom I could always talk to (like a parent and a friend). So lucky me! But some people don’t have that luxury. Some people don’t have someone to confide in. Some do have people to confide in… but they can’t do it. They can’t open up. They are softer and take things more to heart. We are all different.
I got shit for having “grey hair”… dude, I mean its ASH BLONDE! Digs because I went to a fancy private school. Digs because my parents didn’t have enough money. Shots at the fact I was an only child. I got picked on for having an underbite… actually I shouldn’t say picked on cause most were so cowardly they couldn’t say anything to my face, but the whispered. I got my fair share, as many of us do… But I had something inside me that could overcome it. Whatever… I was okay with it all. But thats me, thats not everyone.
Not all people can overcome that shit. And people just shouldn’t have to. We shouldn’t have to get over all the nasty shit that others do and say to hurt us. Parents shouldn’t have to go to school with a scared or sad child that someone is bullying them.
I was lucky to have grown up in a much simpler time. I had no internet when I was young. None of this CYBER BULLYING. I am not looking forward to having to possibly deal with that when my child hits school age.
The moral of the story here is… don’t be a bully. Don’t be an arsehole. Hurting people deliberately or stalking people, bullying people, making snide or nasty remarks to incite hate or hurt… that shit is not fucking cool.
That shit is very uncool.
Being a bully is weak.
Being a bully is harmful.
Being a bully can kill.
Hearts are constantly broken because people speak shit. Words can crumble entire families.
Please lets all think before we open our mouths.